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Hi, I'm Nikki Bonkoski

My close friends and family call me Nik. 

I live in Minnesota USA. I'm crazy about: Writing, hiking, coffee, outdoor education, reading, dogs, nature, camping, collecting books, poetry & prose, thrifting, mental health advocacy, and human stories. 

Welcome to my work as a writer, spiritual mentor, and grief support specialist.


I have been doing this work since 2015 when my first husband died by suicide and my writings and teachings have spread globally. I believe in truth, radical authenticity, and spreading information to help people heal.


I hope you resonate with my message that I channel through my life experience, learned wisdom, and warm heart and soul.


I am passionate about nature, self-love, spiritual knowledge, mental wellness, and living my very best life no matter what I endure along the way. Life hasn’t cheated me. I cheat my own life if I give up and don’t follow my calling to share my heart. I hope my words resonate with you and through my wisdom you find guidance. 

There is a beautiful light inside of you that can never be bent, bruised, or shattered. I believe that we all have the ability to rise through any trials or struggles in our life with grace. 

Please, reach out if you need someone to listen to your story. I'm here and I care about you. You are not alone. I am the founder of The Brave Ladies Club on Facebook as well as Grief Untamed & Manhood Untamed. My totally free Facebook support groups that help bring people together from all over the world. Because when you've experienced trauma? You truly just want to feel like you aren't the only one..that you aren't alone.


Dear one, you are wrapped in warmth and light. Reach out anytime. 

Your stories are safe in my heart. If you need a place to lay down the load you're carrying. Please, reach out.

My FREE Facebook support groups.

The Brave Ladies Club: Support group for women who lost a spouse/partner to suicide. 

The Brave Ladies Club Sequel: Support group for women who are 2 plus years past the suicide of their spouse/partner. 


Grief Untamed: Support group for all death related grief. All Women & Men ages 18-100 are welcome. 


Manhood Untamed: Men's mental health support group. MEN only. 


Love Always, Nik

"I’ve spent the entire evening reading every one of your posts. I think you’re one of the most amazing women I’ve ever read.... never stalked a page like this. Ever. I’m blown away. Keep making beauty in the world. My goodness you deserve so much goodness." 

"There are some people we meet in life that no matter how much we search & try to find words that adequately describe their character, we will never find them because the only place they exist are in the pages of the dictionary that sits on a shelf in heaven where they rightfully belong. One day Nik, I'll open that heavenly dictionary and finally be able to communicate how inspirational you & all you do, truly are." 

"Nik, if you've saved one life... Can you IMAGINE!!! In reality though you have may already have saved MULTIPLE lives with your words!!!!!! HOLY COW!!!! Some heros fight for our country, some heros fight bad guys, some heros fight fires, some heros fight to save lives, some heros just love and make others around them feel better, know they aren't alone, and help them fight to hang on. You may not have a dangerous job that you risk your life on everyday, but with that keyboard of yours you are fighting as hard as any other hero and making a difference in people's lives and in some cases saving them. All because you chose to tell the truth. Nik, you are a true hero. World wide!!! Keep up the great work!!" 

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