Nikki Bonkoski
Hi, I'm Nikki Bonkoski
My close friends and family affectionately refer to me as Nik.
I created this space for us to come as we are and still be LOVED.
I reside in Rosemount Minnesota, USA, and I have a passion for a variety of interests, including: writing, coffee, reading, dogs, collecting books, poetry and prose, advocating for mental health & suicide awareness and exploring human stories.
Welcome to my journey as a writer, spiritual mentor and grief support specialist.
Since 2015, I have embarked on a profound journey following the heartbreaking loss of my husband to suicide. My writings and teachings have connected with people around the world. I wholeheartedly believe in the transformative power of truth, the importance of radical authenticity, and the essential role of sharing wisdom as part of the healing process. I have supported thousands in navigating their grief after losing a loved one, including my own children, who were just four years old and 23 months when their father passed away in 2015. Experiencing young widowhood has taught me invaluable lessons about life, loss, love, and death, granting me a unique wisdom that enables me to assist others in their grief. This perspective is often absent in grief support from those who have not experienced the loss of a spouse. After remarrying in 2019, I found that this new chapter further enhanced my ability to guide others in their healing journeys, helping them to move forward with their lives while keeping their loved ones forever in their hearts.
I hope my message, inspired by my life experiences, accumulated wisdom, and heartfelt essence, resonates with you.
I have a deep passion for nature, self-love, spiritual insights, mental wellness, and striving to live my best life, regardless of the challenges I face. Life hasn’t wronged me; rather, I would be wronging myself if I chose to give up and ignore my calling to express my heart. It is my wish that my words touch you and that you find guidance through my insights.
In November 2022, I faced Sudden Sensorineural Hearing Loss, resulting in unilateral deafness, with profound hearing loss in my right ear. This new challenge brought immense grief and depression during the first year, but it also deepened my understanding of others' hidden disabilities. It taught me that there is so much we cannot perceive about someone at first glance, which leads to a simple yet powerful lesson: always be kind and love everyone, always.
Within you lies a radiant light that can never be contorted, damaged, or broken. I truly believe that we all possess the strength to gracefully overcome any trials or tribulations we encounter in life.
I founded The Brave Ladies Club on Facebook, alongside Grief Untamed, Manhood Untamed, and Motherhood Untamed. These free Facebook support groups connect individuals from all over the world. When dealing with trauma, it’s normal to seek reassurance that you’re not the only one experiencing it.
Dear one, you are wrapped in warmth and light. Reach out anytime.
I love words, coffee, and humans. I'm glad you're here!
Your stories are safe in my heart.
If you need a place to lay down the load you're carrying. Please, reach out.
My FREE Facebook support groups.
The Brave Ladies Club: Support group for women who lost a spouse/partner to suicide.
The Brave Ladies Club Sequel: Support group for women who are 2 plus years past the suicide of their spouse/partner.
Grief Untamed: Support group for all death related grief. All Women & Men ages 18-100 are welcome.
Manhood Untamed: Men's mental health support group. MEN only.
Motherhood Untamed: Support group for Mom's with children of any age. A place to discuss mental wellness, motherhood, and our shared struggles & joys.
Love Always, Nik
"I’ve spent the entire evening reading every one of your posts. I think you’re one of the most amazing women I’ve ever read.... never stalked a page like this. Ever. I’m blown away. Keep making beauty in the world. My goodness you deserve so much goodness."
"There are some people we meet in life that no matter how much we search & try to find words that adequately describe their character, we will never find them because the only place they exist are in the pages of the dictionary that sits on a shelf in heaven where they rightfully belong. One day Nik, I'll open that heavenly dictionary and finally be able to communicate how inspirational you & all you do, truly are."
"Nik, if you've saved one life... Can you IMAGINE!!! In reality though you have may already have saved MULTIPLE lives with your words!!!!!! HOLY COW!!!! Some heros fight for our country, some heros fight bad guys, some heros fight fires, some heros fight to save lives, some heros just love and make others around them feel better, know they aren't alone, and help them fight to hang on. You may not have a dangerous job that you risk your life on everyday, but with that keyboard of yours you are fighting as hard as any other hero and making a difference in people's lives and in some cases saving them. All because you chose to tell the truth. Nik, you are a true hero. World wide!!! Keep up the great work!!"
