Life is all about the pivot.
Lost your job?
Pivot.
Widowed?
Pivot.
Dreams not taking off?
Pivot.
We aren't taught this as kids or as teens and in reality.......even if we were taught this? It truly takes hands-on life experience to teach us about the pivot. We have to experience loss and hard knocks, failed dreams and wrong roads to learn the true and real meaning of the pivot.
What does pivot mean?
It means being able to change direction when life pulls the rug out from under you.
Instantly?
Of course not.
You're human, right?
You will need a moment....a day...a month..maybe more..maybe years to find your new path, gain your bearings, accept the truth and move forward.
You don't have to be positive when you feel negative and down but you want to know some truth?
Your brain is hardwired for confirmation bias. What does this mean?
It means that what you think and tell yourself? Your brain is listening and it believes you.
If you tell yourself over and over, "My life is crap. I can't get over this hard time. I can't heal my heart. I can't start over." Then......your brain will believe you. It will find things and ways and ideas out in the world to confirm what you have been telling it.
If you start slowly. Ever...ever so slowly to pivot? Pivot from those down and dark thoughts and start to think and tell yourself, "I can get through this. Does it suck? Yes. Is it painful? Yes. But I can trudge through. I can start over. I can find happiness and joy and heck, maybe even laughter again. I can dream a new dream." ..........If you pivot to these thoughts? Your brain will? You guessed it! It will pivot because of? Confirmation bias. It is always searching in the world for what you tell it. So if you tell it to find healing and laughter, happiness and new dreams? It will find it everywhere you look. It will pivot.
Love always, Nik
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